My realization

I had a dream like 2 weeks ago. It was a crazy dream. I was talking to my best friend in my apartment. I was told that she was getting married. At the age of 19!! It really annoyed me so much that I said, "Anyways, I don't really care about you. But how did your mom take it?"
She said, " Well, when she found out, then she locked herself in the bathroom for a day. But she's accepted it now because she's already out."

Then I asked, " So, who will be paying for the wedding?"

She said, "Oh, that's all taken care of. I took out a loan at Pagcor (Is this even a loaning agency?=)"

I said in irritation, " Ok, it's your life."

I think that even if I said that I didn't really care, I think I did. But it was so annoying to so many levels because one, I didn't really approve and second, I couldn't do anything to prevent it. I've seen My Best Friend's Wedding and the "preventor" always loses.

My professor in Sociology asked us what the best way was to deal with a daughter who marries a total junkie (guy with tattoos or drinks so much for example). He said that it was just to be happy for them because if you comment negatively, you're creating in-groups and out-groups. It means that it's like you're drawing a circle around yourself and marking your territory saying no one can encroach upon.

But for me, I think that accepting is one of the most difficult things to do. If I was in that situation wherein I didn't like the guy, I wouldn't tell off my daughter but tell off the guy and try to change him into a better person. Maybe at least make him more friendly towards me. I just think I like changing people especially if I care about them so much.

Honestly, if I were to be asked, I wouldn't want to have a daughter because I'd dislike her husband. But if I had a son, I'd dislike the wife....Thinking about it again, maybe guys are more friendly towards women so her hubby might work hard to get my approval first. I just hope that if I had a daughter she wouldn't grow up to be like my aunt who takes her significant other's side blindly.

I just think that I'm protective of my women. When my cousin got a boyfriend, I didn't like him at first but after awhile he became friends with me. When my best friend got a boyfriend, I didn't like him at first but even now I don't like him. What's the difference? It's because my cousin's boyfriend befriended me while my best friend's bf didn't unless forced. Maybe it's like an outsider entering my territory. Are they here to invade or here to take in my culture?
I always hated being a third-wheel but there was only one person I could stand being a third-wheel of. It was Girlie. She asked me to accompany her to SM together with her bf. Even if he barely talked to me, he just kept on smiling and I felt so comfortable. Now, she has a different boyfriend though, but because he jokes around with me so much I like him as well .

My friends are going to Korea (staying there for a month) on July and drop by Japan for a few days. It's going to be so fun. I wish I could have gone too. Because they have to wait for their flight and stay in the airport for a night, they could hang out together. I wish I could do that with my friends too. I'm glad I still have single friends like Karina and Angela. Oh, I don't think they're still friends, too bad. I'm glad that Steph is already single. Wala na akong kaagaw. Now, where does Sherwin fit in? Well, he can come along the next trip. I just enjoy hanging out with girls. Does it make me a misandrist? haha. I wonder. I just now that I love my friends so much.